November 10, 2012

• Confidence

  The book I read to research this post was Confidence for Dummies 2nd edition by Kate Burton et al which is a very good book which I borrowed from the library. Viktor L Frankl wrote a very famous book called Man's Search for Meaning which is mostly about his experiences in several concentration camps including Auschwitz. While there he learned a lot about what motivates people not to give up which later in life helped him become an emminent psychotherapist. He discover the people who cope best with trauma are those with deep seated faith. a goal in life and those with something to look forward to like seeing a loved one again. He once had a male patient who had outlived his wife and was depressed because he missed her. Viktor reframed it and told him that at least she has been spared the fate that he is enduring. When you think of it one or the other  would have to suffer that fate. It's vital to have goals in life. Another thing is if you face rejection it shouldn't be taken personally. A famous speaker called Antony Robbins who specializes in self improvement does an exercise where he selects a man from the audience who has to ask a beautiful actress who works for Robbins out. She is instructed that on no account is she to say yes. He is told that he is to try and talk her into having a date & not accept rejection. What comes out of this exercise is she is merely doing as instructed and the rejection isn't personal which is the way we should see rejection. Of course if this were a real situation he would have to be careful it didn't turn into harrassment. A final thing is there are organisations like Toastermasters International which encourage people to do public speaking at there meetings and work at their speach making skills.

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